2012 has been treating the people I love pretty well so far. A friend of mine got married last month. I was honored to attend her wedding, and I cried like a little baby all the way through the ceremony. Not long after that, my big brother (who I thought was going to be an eternal bachelor a la Clooney) got engaged. More waterworks from me. In the wee hours of the 13th of this month, my very dear friend, Mary Beth, gave birth to a little girl. Happy tears galore.
I’ve been friends with Mary Beth and Mark (her hubby) for a while now. MB was my college roommate at a time when I really needed a friend. She is giving and thoughtful, but she doesn’t mind giving me space. If I need to call her up out of the blue and cry about something stupid, I know that I can. (And trust me, I have!)
I keep thinking back to when Mark and Mary Beth got married. It was such a happy day. Now their love has multipled, and they have grown their family.
Whitley (isn’t that the best baby name ever?!) is very fortunate to have such loving parents. I know that she’ll grow up to be an incredible woman because she has the perfect role models.
All this lovey stuff would have turned me into a Bitter Betty or a Green-eyed Monster back at the beginning of the deployment. Right now, I feel nothing but good vibes, not a twinge of sadness. Well, I feel bad that Stephen can’t be here for these special moments, but at the same time, I know that there are a lifetime of happy moments still to be had when he returns.
These good times have also helped bring me some peace about Stephen’s deployment. I’m not very political (at least I try not to be on the blog), but let’s be real: I don’t always feel like the war we are fighting is worth it. I don’t know what the solution is in Afghanistan, but I wish it didn’t involve my husband or anyone else’s family members for that matter. BUT if in some way Stephen is playing a tiny role in keeping the country safe, in maintaining the normalcy here, in helping these happy moments to happen for the people we love, then maybe it has been worth it.*